Find Happiness 34: How to Calm Down a Hyperactive Mind Fast

dreamstime_17540010.jumpy2 I have been helping people become more peaceful for a long time. In the course of that, I have had one-on-one interchanges with several of them.

I tell them to sit down for ten minutes a day and observe their internal landscape, then I talk about what they are seeing.

But there are some people whose minds are hyperactive. They are unable to make themselves sit down for ten minutes a day. Their minds are too jumpy to enable them to do any one thing for more than say, two minutes. Call it ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) if you will.

If you fit that bill, I have a prescription for you.

Spend ONE MINUTE a day watching your breath flow in and out with your eyes closed. Do this at any time of the day: lying in bed when you are just awake, or on the toilet, on the bus to work, during lunch break, in the doctor’s waiting room, on the treadmill, in the pool or after you lie down for the night.

What exactly do I mean by “watch your breath flow in and out with your eyes closed”? I mean breathe slowly and feel the air flow into your nostrils, down your throat and into your chest. Then feel it retrace its steps until it flows out of your nostrils.

Do this every day for six days. Then take a day off from it.

The next week, spend TWO MINUTES a day watching your breath. The week after, three, the week after that four and the week after that five.

At the end of the above five weeks if you will find you are an obviously calmer person.

If you are about to dismiss this prescription as voodoo, DON’T. There is a lot of logic behind why it works which, in the interests of brevity,  I do not want to get into now.

If you are about to dismiss this prescription as “the same stuff that everyone and his dog talks about,” DON’T. Many people DO talk about breath-watching, and there is a good reason for that: it works.

Briefly put, do not dismiss the prescription without trying it. Once you give it a shot, there is no way you will dismiss it.

And what do you do after you have calmed down?

Then you are ready for grabbing a bigger chunk of the inner peace pie. Follow the teacher of your choice, or request my free course at the URL below.

Remember this:

No sincere effort to attain inner peace shall be unsuccessful.”

— I say this from my own experience and from that of others whom I have observed closely.


To your increasingly peaceful life,


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Finding Happiness 27: Experiment with Inner Peace


There’s nothing like experimentation to test out a theory. and here’s a theory you might be interested in:

“By watching your thoughts during potentially upsetting situations, you will be minimally affected by those situations.”

Of course for this experiment, like most others, you will need a lab; but the good news is that you do not have to empty your pockets building one. No expense, no bank loan, no staff and no rent… because the lab already exists: it’s life.

And you do not even have to make time to run the experiments; they all occur naturally.

Upsetting situations are any situations that tend to make you worried, angry, stressed, depressed or anxious. Examples of upsetting situations are:

  • Your breakfast is not ready in time, possibly making you late for work;
  • You wake up late on a working day;
  • You cannot find it something that you wanted to take to work;
  • Your child is sick;
  • Your spouse/partner says something nasty to you;
  • You are going to miss an important deadline;
  • Something turns out to be a lot more expensive than you expected;
  • You get into an argument with a neighbor or colleague;
  • A contractor does something abominably wrong;
  • You think your mind is going to pieces;
  • A loved one dies or disappears;
  • A rival overtakes you;
  • You break or lose something very valuable;
  • You perform badly in an important task;
  • Your transportation is delayed and makes you late;
  • You start feeling sick;
  • You realize your finances are running low;
  • You say something to someone and worry about whether it was the right thing to have said.

One or more of these situations are likely to occur in your normal day.

The Experimental Procedure

    1. At the beginning of the day, resolve to carefully watch your mind whenever you begin to feel disturbed due to one of these situations coming on. This requires you to be very alert and very determined (if you want to find happiness and inner peace badly enough, you WILL be determined).

    2. When the situation comes on, watch your thoughts, especially the ones that appear to be in the first person, such as “how can he talk to me like that” or “I’m in for a real disaster now.”

    3. If done diligently, this will give you a chance to refrain from doing something impulsively (i.e. doing something stupid). Decide on how you are going to react thoughtfully, watching your thoughts as you decide.

    4. Then act accordingly.

    5. Evaluate whether you were less upset during the situation when you were watching your thoughts.

If performed properly, the experiment will validate the earlier-stated theory.

And where do you go from here? Simple: practice what the theory says throughout the day, and you will soon see that you are consistently less upset, which means you are a happier person leading a more peaceful life!

To your success,

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Find Happiness 11: Find Inner Peace and Relieve Stress Simultaneously

relieve-stress As I and many others have often emphasized, there is a simple procedure that will required to reduce stress and anxiety significantly.  This procedure will also lead you to great inner peace if faithfully performed.

The procedure is to spend a mere 10 minutes a day watching your thoughts, with a view to realizing that you are a motionless, constant witness to them, bereft of agitation and anxiety.

And how do you perform it? Let me repeat what I wrote some time ago:

Sit quietly somewhere, close your eyes and watch what’s going on in your head.

  • As soon as you “think” something, try and locate the answer to the question, “Who was aware of that thought?” try and feel the answer, not voice it in words
  • Perform this process  on a daily basis on several thoughts (10 minutes a day will do).
  • Gradually you will realize you are separate from all your thoughts; you will in other words realize that they are objects and the basic you is an observer. Since emotions are nothing but thoughts, the basic you is separate from them as well. Since the basic you is separate from your emotions, it feels no sadness, happiness, frustration or any other emotions.
  • Please be aware that at no point am I saying that you should suppress your thoughts. They are the product of your brain and should keep flowing, only you should watch them like you would watch birds flying by.
  • Over the short term, try to realize that “deciding what to do next” is also a string of thoughts that the basic you should be watching from a position of stillness (and therefore silence). In this way, you should transfer the responsibility of “deciding what to do next” to your mind, while the basic you is relaxed and watching it happen.
  • The more you perform this process, the more peace you will find in yourself.

But hey, what’s the big deal in being utterly peaceful for 10 minutes a day? Now we come to the point of this article…

What’s important is that you apply what you learn in those 10 minutes to the rest of your day!

Use times of stress or anxiety to remind you to abide in the basic you (if you were already in it, there would be no stress or anxiety). When you find you’re struck by stress or anxiety, "put your money where your realization is"… remind yourself that what’s stressing you out is your thoughts and that the basic you is their motionless witness; feel the basic you while the thoughts flow in its benign presence. Remind yourself that that flow of thoughts is just the result of your brain doing its thing. Continue watching your thoughts as they decide what to do next, then act accordingly.

You should be so keen on identifying with the basic you at all times that you should be thankful for the stressful situation, since it was a reminder to put your head where it belongs. That’s the kind of attitude that fosters rapid progress to profound inner peace.

Following this process will prevent you from transforming into an adrenaline-crazed monster. You also won’t do any of the damaging, insane things stressed-out people tend to do to themselves and to others.

If this sounds far-fetched to you, try it like I did. It’ll work for you like it worked for me.

To your peaceful, happy life,

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