Find Happiness 67: Declutter, Hear the Universe

Do you wish that your mind was a fount of creativity and inspiration? Of course you do. For that to happen, there is a simple step you have to take: Declutter your mind

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By its very nature, your mind is creative and full of inspiration. Trouble is, you’ve filled it up with a cyclone of non-beneficial, active thoughts. Examples:

  • Worrying that a friend or relative thinks ill of you
  • Feeling that you are worthless
  • Depressed that something you want to happen is not happening
  • Fearing that the Universe (or God) is going to punish you
  • Trying to remember a name or word for extended lengths of time

What you need to do is pull away from these mini-obsessions and focus on the present. Nothing will go wrong if you let go of your cloud of worry and negativity. As a matter of fact, you’ll be better off for it… it’s as if the sky has been overcast for years on end, and finally the clouds have melted away, so that you can see the sunshine.

The sunshine is a metaphor for unconditioned thinking, which is very often highly creative. In addition, this thinking can draw from hitherto untapped areas of your mind and result in premonitions or the ability to perform accelerated mental math.

Focussing on the present without regard to your habitual worries, fears and other obsessions needs a strong power of concentration. One of the best ways to develop your concentration is meditation. Meditation comes in several flavours, and you should choose one that is themed around staring at an object. There are several meditation coaches available on the Internet; go to a meditation forum or a meditation group on Facebook and ask for opinions.

Here are links to some meditation forums which I briefly scanned:

And here are some Facebook groups that look worthwhile:

So strengthen your concentration with a few weeks of meditation and use that heightened concentration to focus on the here and now. Practice this focussing continuously and see how your thoughts become more creative and intuitive!

Your friend

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Find Happiness 66: Afraid Your Thoughts Will Come True?

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You’re angry with someone and a mildly malicious thought about them crosses your mind. Shortly afterwards, great misfortune befalls them.

You are wracked with guilt, thinking that the harm that befell them is because of your malicious thought. Because of that guilt you can neither sleep at night nor concentrate during the day. You are totally messed up.

Has this happened to you?

Well I have good news: the fact is that the guilt, pain and worry are totally uncalled for. That is because, no matter what you have come to believe, you do not have the power to make things happen to other people by an act of will. That only happens in tales of fantasy (nowadays so prevalent in the media), and it behoves you to drop such a belief ASAP!!

If you are nevertheless unable to shake the belief, it is simple to scientifically prove you cannot make things happen purely by thinking.

One of the criteria for scientific proof is that the cause-effect relationship in question should occur at all times. Think of the times you have wished for other things to happen, for example:

  • You wished your meal provider would serve up a particular dish
  • You wished someone would call or visit
  • You wished there would be a vacant seat for you on a bus or train
  • You wished it would rain
  • You wished someone would be healthy
  • etc, etc, etc.

Did your wish always come true? I am quite sure not. If it occasionally did, you can say it was a coincidence and nothing more, since what you are seeing is a random outcome, and random outcomes are natural, they occur whether you have pre-willed them or not.it down and

Want more proof? Sit down and strongly will for something to happen (I’m not talking about something happening in the future, ala “The Secret”, the “Law of Attraction”, etc, but something to happen within the next day. And it should be something that is not strongly likely to happen anyway (like there being clouds in the sky the next morning).

Did it happen? Probably not. If it did, try it three more times. Did it work all three times? I’ll bet not, so you do not have supernatural mental powers. If it did, then I need to meet and interview you!

Closing Advice

Learn how to step back from guilt, anxiety, stress, depression and the mind in general so that those conditions do not matter to you. The first step is to know where to step back to; that takes a desire to explore and repeated introspection.

I can tell you from experience that the “step-back-place” is in everyone; it is a state of perfect, unshakable calm that anyone can locate with the repeated introspection mentioned above. So do some research online for a good teacher. Take action and get peaceful NOW.

Good luck!

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Find Happiness 65: Dealing with Difficult People

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Almost everyone has encountered another person who has been very abrasive . It is very disconcerting and unpleasant having to interact with such an individual. Here is a strategy to deal with this situation.

STEP ONE

The first thing to consider doing is always to forget the incident and forgive the person: This way, in the immediate ‘aftermath’, you need not obsess over what happened and can get on with your day.

Also, it prevents your relationship with the person from taking a hit; as a matter of fact, I have even observed that very often the person may stop being abrasive on seeing that it has little or no effect on you (this of course does not always happen).

You need to give this method a hard try for five or six ‘encounters’ with the person to gauge its effect. A “hard try” is totally forgiving and forgetting; make sure pride or your ego do not obstruct you from doing this. If the other person does not change, then move to Step Two…

STEP TWO

What to consider doing if the person continues being abrasive: In this case, for your own peace of mind,  it is better to maintain a polite distance from the person. The magnitude of that distance depends on how difficult the other person is and about how important it is for you to have a relationship with that person.

Some methods for maintaining distance are:

Interact less frequently with the person, perhaps only when necessary, for instance  to communicate only by phone, or for even less participation, by text message.

Maintaining distance if you live under the same roof may prove to be very uncomfortable, in which case, I am sorry to say, the best solution may be to live apart as a last resort.

I wish you success in dealing with your difficult person. Feel free to leave a comment if you would like to discuss the subject.

Your friend,

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