There’s nothing like experimentation to test out a theory. and here’s a theory you might be interested in:
“By watching your thoughts during potentially upsetting situations, you will be minimally affected by those situations.”
Of course for this experiment, like most others, you will need a lab; but the good news is that you do not have to empty your pockets building one. No expense, no bank loan, no staff and no rent… because the lab already exists: it’s life.
And you do not even have to make time to run the experiments; they all occur naturally.
Upsetting situations are any situations that tend to make you worried, angry, stressed, depressed or anxious. Examples of upsetting situations are:
- Your breakfast is not ready in time, possibly making you late for work;
- You wake up late on a working day;
- You cannot find it something that you wanted to take to work;
- Your child is sick;
- Your spouse/partner says something nasty to you;
- You are going to miss an important deadline;
- Something turns out to be a lot more expensive than you expected;
- You get into an argument with a neighbor or colleague;
- A contractor does something abominably wrong;
- You think your mind is going to pieces;
- A loved one dies or disappears;
- A rival overtakes you;
- You break or lose something very valuable;
- You perform badly in an important task;
- Your transportation is delayed and makes you late;
- You start feeling sick;
- You realize your finances are running low;
- You say something to someone and worry about whether it was the right thing to have said.
One or more of these situations are likely to occur in your normal day.
The Experimental Procedure
1. At the beginning of the day, resolve to carefully watch your mind whenever you begin to feel disturbed due to one of these situations coming on. This requires you to be very alert and very determined (if you want to find happiness and inner peace badly enough, you WILL be determined).
2. When the situation comes on, watch your thoughts, especially the ones that appear to be in the first person, such as “how can he talk to me like that” or “I’m in for a real disaster now.”
3. If done diligently, this will give you a chance to refrain from doing something impulsively (i.e. doing something stupid). Decide on how you are going to react thoughtfully, watching your thoughts as you decide.
4. Then act accordingly.
5. Evaluate whether you were less upset during the situation when you were watching your thoughts.
If performed properly, the experiment will validate the earlier-stated theory.
And where do you go from here? Simple: practice what the theory says throughout the day, and you will soon see that you are consistently less upset, which means you are a happier person leading a more peaceful life!
To your success,